Excerpts from: Miss Marks and Miss Woolley by Anna Mary Wells Boston: Houghton Mifflin, 1978.
Miss Woolley taught Biblical Studies before she became president of Mount Holyoke College. Miss Marks were her student. They fell in love, but found conflict arising from popular anti-lesbian beliefs at the time, which generated internalized homophobia. Before their own and the public’s realizations about the nature of their relationship they enjoyed each other’s company and being in love. I have extracted some of the more positive excerpts for letters between the two, reprinted in the book Miss Marks and Miss Woolley [According to the introduction to this book some letters of Miss Woolley are to be opened in 1999, as per Miss Woolley instructions. Interesting that I should have just discovered this book, at the end of 1998! I can wait to see what’s in those letters.] Excerpts from Miss Marks and Miss Woolley: Miss Woolley became aware of how painful the separation would be when Jeannette was graduated and she herself left Wellesley...Now it appeared that the intimacy must come to an end. Under this threat the two women made in March a mutual declaration of ardent and exclusive love. .. Mary Woolley used the language and imagery of the Bible, Jeannette Marks that of the English romantic poets... They exchanged tokens, a ring and a jeweled pin, with pledges of lifelong fidelity. "If you knew what a lonely feeling I have every night when I do not see you, you would realize what the thought of our separation next year means to me. I have such a feeling of security in your love, Jeannette. I know that it will not change... I rest in your love in a way that makes me stronger and happier (p. 56-57) '"Your coming is my rest and refreshment and delight after my hours of work...Oh! my dear little girl, do you not know, can you not understand, that you do just as much for me as I can possibly do for you? I want to be what you thing that I am Jeannette- the fact that I love you makes me wish to be more in the world... you are an inspiration to me, dear, as well as my greatest comfort... Does it seem possible that it is only a few short weeks since we have felt that we could say allthat we feel without restraint or constraint? Two such proud ladies, too, each one afraid that she felt more than the other and determined to keep her own self respect! ...I am so glad that it is not a sudden "possessing," Jeannette, that for five years it has been coming surely to pass and that for almost three years I have realized that you were very dear to me, never as dear, however as you are today." (p.57) "You know that you have given me this great birthday gift, one which will make this birthday different from any that I have ever spent. I shall thank God for it tomorrow as the great gift which this year has brought to me, my Treasure... I wonder whether it often falls to the lot of mortals to love as we do. My own Love, should we not be very thankful for this supreme gift which makes life so full and rich and deep and tender?" (p. 57) "...if only the separation need not come! It will be so hard this coming year- first the ocean between me and all that I love, and then the new work among strangers! If only you were to be with me , dearest, if only!... Besides, we can not afford to be separated! We should be bankrupt in the stationary and postage line!" "I cannot grow reconciled to the thought of being away from you. Even a day or two is hard... Dearest, my dearest, it is hard not to have your good night kiss.. God in His providence has given me this love when I most need it, when I am about to take up crushing responsibilities... Do you realize what it means to have you, the heart of my life, to talk with you as I would with my own soul, to have nothing hid, to feel that we are one?" (p.58-59) "My own Darling, the year has brought me no gift as great as your love." (p. 61) "But my work is one thing. I am interested in it; I intend to put myself into it, but it is not myself. You are that- my very heart- my Love." (p. 64) "It is just like having an unremitting pain, this having you away. There is a dull ache all the time, and I long, long for you... I think that you do not know, Dearie, how my real life is just bound up in you. Everything, my work, my happiness, has you as its center. (p. 107) Jeannette- in Gallant Little Wales frontispiece picture of the Ladies of Llangollen: "two dear quaint, sentimental souls, with personalities sufficiently marked and fearless so that they were unafraid to be themselves...Lady Eleanor Butler was the daughter of the Earl of Ormond. She was born in Dublin and was both wealthy and beautiful. The Honorable Miss [Sarah] Ponsonby, a member of an ancient family, was an early friend of Lady Eleanor. She, too, was born in Dublin, and both lost their parents at the same time. They loved independence and did not love their suitors. Many things drew them together and, as Wordsworth aptly phrases it, they retired into notice in the Vale of Llangollen." (p. 136) "A friendship which was better than life itself came to my rescue and Mary Woolley and I became close friends." (p. 265)